tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5754739242520868315.post8812417754576267326..comments2023-03-26T01:02:06.760-07:00Comments on The Fearless Heart: What We Know and Don't KnowMiki Kashtanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00907977416574801559noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5754739242520868315.post-35402799992608597612014-01-15T09:30:43.590-08:002014-01-15T09:30:43.590-08:00Once there was a person named Millie. She was rela...Once there was a person named Millie. She was relaxing in a warm, comfortable space, being cared for by someone she loved and trusted. Everything seemed fine, but she gradually became aware of a little discomfort in her chest. Suddenly she woke up, and realized she had been asleep under anesthesia and there was a surgeon standing over her, cutting up her heart and eating it. <br /><br />Feeling Marthettenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5754739242520868315.post-87125502407521673472013-12-25T11:06:42.045-08:002013-12-25T11:06:42.045-08:00Dear Ron,
Thank you for this comment. It helps me...Dear Ron,<br /><br />Thank you for this comment. It helps me understand some of the subtler nuances of how I create unwanted distance. Like I said in an earlier comment you may have not seen, I often focus on contrast as a way to reach clarity. I now see that the cost can be pretty high. I want to learn and learn again to express full passion just based on what I want. <br /><br />I appreciate Miki Kashtanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00907977416574801559noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5754739242520868315.post-38559721253371286702013-12-22T12:36:52.062-08:002013-12-22T12:36:52.062-08:00Hello Miki,
I'm taking time today to read som...Hello Miki,<br /><br />I'm taking time today to read some entries. I haven't been keeping up with your blog, so there's a backlog for me to explore.<br /><br />I'm not sure what to say about this entry other than yes. Yes, these are areas of thought. Yes, we are guided toward certain ways of thinking and kinds of blindness. Yes, it is hard to speak of some things without Morianoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5754739242520868315.post-59041632860953631712013-12-05T11:24:50.865-08:002013-12-05T11:24:50.865-08:00Miki, the trend in the Time magazine covers resona...Miki, the trend in the Time magazine covers resonates with my experience at an international conference on communication and conflict I attended this year. The presenters shared perspectives that left me dumbfounded: for instance, that many Somali "pirates" do not even know what piracy is, that the clan structure in Iraq is an essential force for stability, and that at least one tribe John Backmanhttp://www.dialogueventure.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5754739242520868315.post-54946836835550290222013-12-05T05:56:44.919-08:002013-12-05T05:56:44.919-08:00Miki, thanks for the companionship in the complex ...Miki, thanks for the companionship in the complex challenge of both learning to teach our brains / nervous systems that there is enough, and to open our hearts and minds to the reality that our planet is facing some serious problems. Not always easy for me to hold the two at the same time, or to meet people who are committed to both.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5754739242520868315.post-65840549263852860482013-12-04T22:31:11.802-08:002013-12-04T22:31:11.802-08:00Dear Mickey,
I am grateful for the reminder and i...Dear Mickey,<br /><br />I am grateful for the reminder and invitation to be ever clearer and more direct about what I want. Although in my self-understanding I did speak to what I want and am trying to do, I can see it wasn't clear enough to you and likely to others as well. <br /><br />Sometimes I know that I express what I want at least in part through contrast. I hope to manage more of theMiki Kashtanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00907977416574801559noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5754739242520868315.post-47637707860221818362013-12-04T07:15:27.291-08:002013-12-04T07:15:27.291-08:00How many times is the word "I" use? Seve...How many times is the word "I" use? Seven times in one paragraph!! Does she ever say what she wants?" <br />I have a dream that someday NVC trainers will be self-connected (instead of "distancing myself" ) and SHOW me what they are feeling and needing, I'm so sick of words. Show me.<br />Sigh.<br />Mickey.Mickeynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5754739242520868315.post-69949217918030174082013-12-03T18:34:13.775-08:002013-12-03T18:34:13.775-08:00Thank you Miki for trying to be so authentic in ...Thank you Miki for trying to be so authentic in this confusing and transitioning world .<br /> In the last century an old wise woman of the Cree Indian nation, named “Eyes of Fire”, had a vision of the future:<br /><br />She prophesied that one day, because of the white man’s’ greed, there would come a time, when the earth would be ravaged and polluted, the forests would be destroyed, the Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5754739242520868315.post-90224761669866838182013-12-03T17:49:31.388-08:002013-12-03T17:49:31.388-08:00Hey everyone! so many words for something that is ...Hey everyone! so many words for something that is SO OBVIOUS! the U.S. is the wealthiest country that Planet Earth has every known. This reality is BIG! There is NO FREE LUNCH. If people choose not to acknowledge the obvious it is their choice. I don't think this has much to do with NVC. Sometimes it is just too painful to acknowledge that we are all in SO DEEP! To some degree there is reallyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5754739242520868315.post-28009781988156182192013-11-30T15:55:55.098-08:002013-11-30T15:55:55.098-08:00You are my hero. Love to you, Mel, and myself.You are my hero. Love to you, Mel, and myself.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5754739242520868315.post-10303322824962460462013-11-30T11:38:09.072-08:002013-11-30T11:38:09.072-08:00Dear Anonymous,
I resonate very much with how you...Dear Anonymous,<br /><br />I resonate very much with how you percieved Miki's words. for me it was these words from the last paragraph; "... us who have shifted our gaze and now see things we may not have seen in the past can do to support others in seeing the same."<br /><br />When I read that message, I felt a small release of tension inside. Tension coming from not really Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5754739242520868315.post-2031602695402718872013-11-29T06:54:41.796-08:002013-11-29T06:54:41.796-08:00“In the midst of my description, which felt both v...“In the midst of my description, which felt both vulnerable and passionate, I learned that someone heard my story as criticism and became defensive.”<br /><br />Miki, I receive this experience and lesson often. My intention is to offer my critical views on something for which I have a concern and a felt responsibility. Still, if I don’t concern myself with how my listeners or readers will receiveRon Greensteinnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5754739242520868315.post-87349963883477077882013-11-28T08:57:26.569-08:002013-11-28T08:57:26.569-08:00I don't think that you are judging other peopl...I don't think that you are judging other people, but I do think that you view yourself as being smarter and more skilled than most other people. People pick up on this and they respond in the same way as if you are judging them. And in an indirect way, it is a judgment of them by contrast to how highly you regard yourself. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com