tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5754739242520868315.post8706881513885027831..comments2023-03-26T01:02:06.760-07:00Comments on The Fearless Heart: Who Benefits From Empathy?Miki Kashtanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00907977416574801559noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5754739242520868315.post-59016911085687055462012-09-12T19:47:34.920-07:002012-09-12T19:47:34.920-07:00What a great image - the regressed inner child - a...What a great image - the regressed inner child - and how you care for him. I will try to use this next time I have difficulty with empathy in the moment. Thanks.Ellennoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5754739242520868315.post-84712361833154111642012-09-11T03:49:43.059-07:002012-09-11T03:49:43.059-07:00Hi, Miki and everybody. I´ve been learning NVC wit...Hi, Miki and everybody. I´ve been learning NVC with Dominic Barter for a while now. I´ve been wondering for a while about the need for empathy in itself. Many times I gave empathy without a previous work of self-empathy. And writing these lines I perceive a need for learning behind it. I was struck, many times, when I asked for empathy and people would tell me to try self-empathy or something Severino Lucenahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14639263824644283515noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5754739242520868315.post-11381868116027909392012-09-10T15:58:26.163-07:002012-09-10T15:58:26.163-07:00"In order to be in empathic dialogue, I must ..."In order to be in empathic dialogue, I must be able to imagine being the other person. It’s a deep discipline for me. It requires me to overcome the righteous pleasure of writing off the other person; of making myself ever so slightly superior, more human, more caring; of keeping my world safe and protected by eschewing others."<br /><br />I just ran across a letter to the editor I Ron Greensteinnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5754739242520868315.post-70938220712741950292012-09-09T13:18:11.135-07:002012-09-09T13:18:11.135-07:00Thank you. I needed this. I work in a field where ...Thank you. I needed this. I work in a field where I see people being dehumanized all the time. I have written about it before, thought about it a ton, and grappled with it deep in my heart daily. My role in the situation prevents me from having an open communication with the people, but I try to hold them in my heart with empathy. It is very, very difficult at times. Sometimes it is difficult Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05321991410940383270noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5754739242520868315.post-14341644938421477822012-09-09T06:20:23.516-07:002012-09-09T06:20:23.516-07:00well said. i do have difficulty finding empathy fo... well said. i do have difficulty finding empathy for others (especially when, in the moment, it's that very person that is in conflict with me and I am regressed and needing empathy for myself. I have been practicing giving these parts of myself empathy and or finding someone uninvolved to support me in this first. Then, I can be fully open to the beauty of most anyone's tragic expressionwww.facebook/mihaly.bartalos.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5754739242520868315.post-8422669517690808102012-09-09T04:54:50.439-07:002012-09-09T04:54:50.439-07:00Empathy for myself first is a prescriptive that wo...Empathy for myself first is a prescriptive that works for me. When I hear myself- give myself empathy- I am connecting to my heart's longing. From that place, connecting to others just happens.<br /><br />Empathy and self empathy are two sides of the same coin. Both practices lead me home.<br /><br />Tattooed and Open Hearted,<br />Deborah (aka Tawanda Bee)Deborah (aka Tawanda Bee)http://tawandabee.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5754739242520868315.post-52057089522039360622012-09-08T21:40:40.436-07:002012-09-08T21:40:40.436-07:00Thanks for addressing my question about the hotlin...Thanks for addressing my question about the hotline. I hope that will come back! I've really enjoyed the Youtube clips. <br />And nothing in your post sounded like I need to do something I don't want to, like have compassion for someone with whom I'm not ready. I just took the opportunity to vent my issues around that! I do feel that sometimes in NVC communities, compassion for the Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5754739242520868315.post-72774807807246895572012-09-08T20:52:36.591-07:002012-09-08T20:52:36.591-07:00Thank you for this. We have stopped airing and tap...Thank you for this. We have stopped airing and taping this show over a year ago. Our volunteer producer/director reached the limits of his capacity to do this without funding. It went on for over two years. I hope one day we will have funding for this and more. Miki Kashtanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00907977416574801559noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5754739242520868315.post-18463372945711666502012-09-08T20:51:29.061-07:002012-09-08T20:51:29.061-07:00If I came across as implying that this is a "...If I came across as implying that this is a "should", then I didn't manage to convey my point. For me this is a path to freedom for me. It's something I do for me, because I want to, because it frees me up, because I want to open my heart. If it doesn't work for anyone, nothing in me wants you to do it just because I invited you to... Hope this helps...Miki Kashtanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00907977416574801559noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5754739242520868315.post-18594495222239287012012-09-08T19:56:45.348-07:002012-09-08T19:56:45.348-07:00Miki, you constantly enrich and deepen my understa...Miki, you constantly enrich and deepen my understanding and my hope. Thank you.Julie Lawrencehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06473867715742092518noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5754739242520868315.post-27397106885554416992012-09-08T17:44:27.795-07:002012-09-08T17:44:27.795-07:00I'm struck by the part about the "rule.&q...I'm struck by the part about the "rule." I agree that SOMEONE has to offer empathy first in a conflict, or no one will ever be heard! For me it definitely seems true that I can offer empathy before I receive it FROM THAT PERSON. At the same time, it is also true that if I've first received empathy from someone, maybe myself, that tends to open and soften my heart and increaseJean McElhaneynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5754739242520868315.post-87798132707814913052012-09-08T00:57:15.499-07:002012-09-08T00:57:15.499-07:00Dear Miki,
Thank you so much for this inspiring ar...Dear Miki,<br />Thank you so much for this inspiring article that feeds my needs of hope and inspiration...<br />Thank you for all your work and for taking the time to share on this blog your experiences...<br />I'm so happy to meet you once more in may 2013, at Yenne !<br />Warmly,<br />IsabelleIsabelle Padovanihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04830064548230655894noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5754739242520868315.post-7481143009848031522012-09-07T17:47:39.475-07:002012-09-07T17:47:39.475-07:00Also, what happened to Youtube videos of the Confl...Also, what happened to Youtube videos of the Conflict Hotline? Did this not make it through budget cuts?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5754739242520868315.post-89047695368313389442012-09-07T17:46:29.778-07:002012-09-07T17:46:29.778-07:00Interesting. I have a few comments. One, I do feel...Interesting. I have a few comments. One, I do feel like it's important to honor times when I'm not feeling compassionate. I deal with a lot of difficulties with my mother and untangling myself from the conditioning I received. I find her incredibly frustrating, and as somebody who deals with a lot of self-blame, I want to own my anger. Usually my NVC buddies tell me something along the Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com