tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5754739242520868315.post6767296446568595984..comments2023-03-26T01:02:06.760-07:00Comments on The Fearless Heart: Ruminations on Romney: Bullying through a Compassionate LensMiki Kashtanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00907977416574801559noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5754739242520868315.post-74378897021860487352012-05-22T08:39:42.894-07:002012-05-22T08:39:42.894-07:00feeling so grateful, hopeful, thankful for your fe...feeling so grateful, hopeful, thankful for your fearless heart and sharing with all of us!!!! BeverlyBeverlynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5754739242520868315.post-64574994652381764752012-05-22T00:32:10.495-07:002012-05-22T00:32:10.495-07:00Hey Miki,
I haven't done much more than skim ...Hey Miki,<br /><br />I haven't done much more than skim the blog yet and I'm already touched... My daughter was the target of bullying when she left the US and started attending school in a small, rural village in Sweden. She had already lived in three different countries by the time she was 10 and so she had a broad view of herself and the world. The kids her age in the village had Jestewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08974057536001362182noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5754739242520868315.post-36074803764851630482012-05-21T07:17:10.989-07:002012-05-21T07:17:10.989-07:00Hi Olivia!
I hear how scary it is when you think ...Hi Olivia! <br />I hear how scary it is when you think of facing bullying with your children: how you might react inside, with your children and with the school personnel. I'd like to offer additional information to reassure you: I believe because I experienced bullying, I was able to guess how painful it was for my son. Because my son trusts me so much and because we value empathy, he Mitsiko Millerhttp://familleharmonie.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5754739242520868315.post-57885190931967647482012-05-21T06:55:05.342-07:002012-05-21T06:55:05.342-07:00p.s. Also I celebrate that you are safe enough wit...p.s. Also I celebrate that you are safe enough with yourself after all these experiences to be so safe for your childOlivianoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5754739242520868315.post-39318893150493942832012-05-21T06:51:14.144-07:002012-05-21T06:51:14.144-07:00Dear Mitsiko
Would love to see Miki's respons...Dear Mitsiko<br /><br />Would love to see Miki's response to this.<br /><br />Mine is that I just want to (again) (it is the Olivia you know) acknowledge your bravery and work and empowerment. I wonder how it must feel to see a son experience what you yourself experienced and feel so much for you. <br /><br />I notice the need for myself, as a parent, to "hold the space", to protectOlivianoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5754739242520868315.post-3663867573734584252012-05-21T04:02:37.231-07:002012-05-21T04:02:37.231-07:00Miki, you can watch it here: http://www.youtube.co...Miki, you can watch it here: http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=q7mznfMI1T4mitsiko millerhttp://familleharmonie.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5754739242520868315.post-32769417000567316792012-05-21T03:56:22.407-07:002012-05-21T03:56:22.407-07:00Hi Miki,
I am deeply moved by your article as I h...Hi Miki, <br />I am deeply moved by your article as I have experienced bullying during my whole childhood. It took many years to recover from the deep despair and the impression of inner death I felt holding such beliefs as “connexion and care with humans was impossible” and “I do not and do not want to belong to this world” for the first 15 years for my life. I am now tackling this issue at my mitsiko millerhttp://familleharmonie.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5754739242520868315.post-51339646887724465482012-05-19T23:56:07.328-07:002012-05-19T23:56:07.328-07:00What a fabulous article. One of, if not the best, ...What a fabulous article. One of, if not the best, articles on bullying I have ever read. The line about a "self-protective, separating and angry response". Wow. I can relate to that... No wonder they say defence is the first act of war. <br /><br />I would love to hear more from you, Miki, on this; on how you processed what happened to you to get to the place you obviously are today, Olivianoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5754739242520868315.post-86030063605123999752012-05-19T05:41:21.637-07:002012-05-19T05:41:21.637-07:00So happy to see this addressed! To me this is ano...So happy to see this addressed! To me this is another place where we get caught up submit/rebel or passive/aggressive. Similar to how people who take action in the name of peace or justice often seem quite aggressive and not at all peaceful to me. The strategies for addressing war are different from the strategies for addressing bullying, and yet if we put nonviolence at the heart (and the Jean Mcnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5754739242520868315.post-83810100369238288252012-05-19T00:37:43.674-07:002012-05-19T00:37:43.674-07:00Hi miki,
Your article brings so many things to ...Hi miki,<br />Your article brings so many things to 'life' in me that am staying with the depth of it.<br /><br />I share Nvc at a school and an orphanage that is connected to it. I have seen 'bullying' happens not only between children, but have seen it happen between adutls as well. So if I take away the lable of 'bullying', for me it's a cycle of violence that just milihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13677357355572013342noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5754739242520868315.post-62596913807040998122012-05-18T21:10:04.391-07:002012-05-18T21:10:04.391-07:00I love that you are bringing attention to the need...I love that you are bringing attention to the needs and troubles of the bully, particularly for empathy, and not just the needs of the victim. It can be really really hard to see through such destructive behavior when the conditioned reaction is to want to shame them and make them stop. Clearly, shame and punishment only aggravate the problem. Part of the dilemma I believe, based on my own sarahnoreply@blogger.com